E.A.R.L.Y. Labor

E.A.R.L.Y. Labor

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Nothing plays with your emotions like that of a high school romance than early labor. You get those first twinges of “hmmm…that felt different”, your belly feels a bit tight and you’re having what feel like period cramps. You then start to furiously Google every single thing your feeling.

Is cramping a sign of labor? 

Is my stomach tightening a sign of labor? 

Is back pain a sign of labor? 

Is spotting a sign of labor? 

Is moodiness a sign of labor? 

…..

Am I ever going into labor? 

These new sensations are exciting! It’s a sign that your body is doing exactly what it needs to be doing when you’re full term. These sensations can also be confusing. Sometimes you’re not sure when a contraction started or when it stopped. Sometimes there’s one contraction just minutes after the other but then the next one is 15 minutes from the last. And then they completely stop. UGH. Just when you got your hopes up. Its even more frustrating if you’re “overdue” or this pattern has been going on for several days or even weeks.

Whether you want to call it early labor or prodromal labor, just don’t call it false labor. These are some real sensations that are doing real things to finally get that baby out of your baby, even if you’re not dilated yet. So how do you not go crazy?

Remember the acronym E.A.R.L.Y. when you’re in early labor.

 

 

Eat- Grab a light meal 

If you have an appetite, satisfy it. Grab something energy packed like a green smoothie, salad with a protein, oatmeal, or peanut butter and honey toast. If it is really time, you’re going to need those energy stores for later. Don’t forget to wash it down with water or other electrolyte drink.

Active- Get moving

If you’re experiencing that burst of energy that can happen in early labor, get up and get moving. Grab your partner or enjoy some alone time with a walk in the park, do some last minute shopping for yourself or baby while you do a few laps around the mall, or continue nesting around your home with some more baby laundry or meal prep. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s something you can complete. If your body isn’t quite ready to complete this pregnancy, at least something got done from start to finish. But remember, when your body says it’s had enough, listen to it and get some rest.

Rest- Go to Sleep

If you’re not feeling that burst of energy that makes you want to do all the things, don’t! Instead get some rest. The relaxation that comes from a good nights sleep or nap can be just as effective at bringing on labor as getting moving if your body is ready. If you’re exhausted and having trouble getting rest because early labor contractions are keeping you up all night, talk to your provider about therapeutic rest.

Love- Bond with your partner or other children

Take these last days to bond with your partner or other children. Ask your partner for a massage, have a candlelit dinner, and enjoy these last days of life as it currently is together. If you have other children, spend some time with just them individually. Let them have an afternoon where they choose what to do and where to eat. Focus on them and remind them that even after baby is here and demanding a lot of attention, they’re still an important part of the family and you will always be there to give them the love they need.

Yourself- Treat yo’ self

Self care is as important now as it will be once your baby is here. Make sure you take some time to do something nice for yourself. Go to the salon and get your hair done or a mani pedi, read a book and enjoy the quiet time, or binge watch a new show while eating ice cream in bed, whatever you need to do to center yourself and feel re-energized.

I know it’s easy for me to feel like the cheerleader over here in the corner shouting all “This is normal!” “Just hang in there!” Because the reality of early labor is that it’s no walk in the park (I mean, sometimes it is what you do to get labor going). Believe me, I remember. That blog I linked above was written when I really was “overdue” after weeks of prodromal labor. Early labor takes an emotional and sometimes physical toll on our bodies. It’s important to acknowledge that you are doing hard things by just keepin’ on, keepin’ on.

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Done is Better Than Good

Done is Better Than Good

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Like you probably are, I’m a mom too. I’m also a partner, a daughter, a friend. Then I️ have this “tiny” role as co-owner of Mainstay Doulas and Co. that seems to take up 99% of my day most days. Entrepreneur life, am I️ right?

It is not easy keeping up with but what keeps my sanity are the few words I️ live by:

Done is better than good and done is good enough.

It’s not that we are accepting less or lowering our standards. There are 24 hours in one day in which you have to work, keep your new tiny human alive, possibly take care of other siblings, and then complete all the mundane tasks that fill up every remaining second of our day.

Oh yeah, then there’s making time for your partner.

But wait, you also need to find time for yourself in there. Which I️ bet is usually the last to be done, if it gets done at all.

When we split ourselves at the seams, it’s easy to feel that nothing is done 100%. Like we can’t be a good enough mom, a good enough, partner, and certainly not a good enough friend. If you’re already feeling these emotions, then you’re probably also not being good enough to yourself either.

I️ see you. I’ve been there.

I’m still there. I’ll never not be there. There will always be something to keep up with, always something I️ feel that I’m not doing 100%. I’m sure through the seasons of being mom there will be an ebb and flow. Some seasons will be easier than others but overall, we will always have a huge task at hand.

So how do you push away the ever looming feelings of failure and believe that done is enough, that you are enough?

It’s not easy, but being a Postpartum Doula has taught me a lot about balancing all the different hats we wear. It’s exactly that: a balance. There is a give and a take. You cannot continuously be 100% in one area of your life without letting another area remain on the bottom, lower than all the rest. When we strive to be perfect in one area, another area suffers but when we simply just get it done, we can move on to another role that is required of us.

I️ don’t consider myself a perfectionist. That is a strength of mine, not a weakness. Because at the end of the day it allows me to put aside any anxieties about the state of the house being just not clean enough, the writing of this blog that just not perfect enough, or the fact that sometimes I️ let my kids have too much screen time. Instead, I️ get to just be me. I️ get to be the me that my kids, partner, and friends already love.

I️’m not the perfect mom, the perfect partner, daughter, friend, or even work colleague but I️ am good enough and I️ do get the job done.

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The Biggest Secret After Bringing Home Baby

The Biggest Secret After Bringing Home Baby

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There is a huge secret out there about the challenges of bringing home baby that is not being said.

***Before we go any further, we should have a disclaimer.  We, too, wish we had the secret to teaching baby how to clean when you clean so when baby sleeps, you can actually sleep.  But that’s not what this blog is about, so if that’s what you’re looking for from this blog, you won’t find it. We will let you know when we figure that one out.***

Our secret is much simpler than that

You won’t find this big secret on other blogs or articles proclaiming they are about to tell you everything that nobody else tells you about bringing home baby.

What those blogs and articles might tell you is that motherhood isolating (did you know that?).

They’re right, it is.

Our secret is about overcoming that.

It is so simple, you may think that it can’t possibly be the answer to an easier and more positive postpartum experience. But it is.

It is that there is a special power to just hanging out in those first weeks. Not by yourself but with someone. Someone like a best friend who knows all about the language your baby uses to tell you what they need and the normal, uncomfortable, and downright weird things that happen to your body in the postpartum period.

You need someone who is going to listen to hear you, not to just listening to respond to you. You want to share your valuable time with someone who isn’t going to judge you or have an opinion on how you birthed your baby, how you feed your baby, the type of diaper you use, where your baby sleeps, or someone that thinks they know the “best way”  to parent your baby because that’s the way they did it. You need someone who doesn’t give you the answers but realizes confidence is built in supporting you through figuring out what works best for you.

If you haven’t been home alone with your brand new baby yet, maybe you aren’t quite understanding what it actually feels like to have a conversation with another human that just gets it. They get your feelings from the most joyful emotions to the darkest moments and everything in between. Then they validate that these feelings or normal and you’re only human for feeling them.

Imagine if you had that best friend.

If you have already been through the ups and downs of your postpartum, how could your experience have been different if you did have this kind of company to share a hot cup of tea with?

Bonus secret: Those types of best friends DO exist. The best friend you wish you had there everyday to celebrate with, to cry with, and to vent to is your Postpartum Doula. She’s there when you need her, how you need her, and without judgment.

So, will you share a cup of tea with us?

 

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What We Have to Say About the Latest Parenting Article

What We Have to Say About the Latest Parenting Article

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Put down the phone…and step away from reading all the parenting articles.

One article says to pick up your baby when they start to cry but you’re bombarded with well meaning family members saying you’re going to spoil your baby. Spoiler alert! You can’t spoil a baby but sometimes we just need to step away for a minute and regroup, you know?

Then another article talks about how this study says screen time will basically turn you child into a zombie but you’re convinced you’ve seen your child’s vocabulary expand because of watching “surprise egg” videos on repeat (why are these the weirdest videos on the planet?).

But then this study says breast is best, that article says it benefits are overrated. This article preaches Cry-It-Out is abandonment but you’re wondering when the hell you’re going to be able to sleep again. This study contradicts that study. Everyone is always telling you all the different ways they got their child to sleep through the night but you really enjoy rocking your baby to sleep BUT then your mom says that’s the absolute worst way to do it.

Just. Stop.

Becoming a mom in the digital age is hard. Other moms’ highlight reels and article and blogs talking about the latest and greatest and what you should think is best for you dominates your newsfeed. Reading and listening to every piece of information is like having your mom, who did it this and you turned out fine, your grandmother, who still does it how she did it, your best friend, who is not even a mom yet, and the random lady at the grocery store, who has an opinion about everything, all shouting different advice at you in every direction. So what do you do? Who do you listen to?

After telling them to shove it (no not really), I mean nod and smile, you listen to you.

You listen to your instincts, your heart, and you head. 

Parenting isn’t about a set of rules to follow , its about learning to trust yourself. Only you can say what’s best for you and your family, not some parenting article that basically concludes what we already knew anyway. You are the only one that can give yourself permission to say “get out of here with you unrealistic expectations” and be confident in your choices.

No matter what you do as a parent, its going to be the best thing for someone and the worst thing for someone else, so you might as well just do you.

At Mainstay Doulas & Co., we believe in you to do whats best for your family which is why we happily support every decision you make regardless of whether or not we did the same with our families.

 

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Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

The Diaper Need in South Florida

The Diaper Need in South Florida

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We all want to teach our children the importance of leaving our communities better than how we found them.

This story is no different.

What started out as a charitable act turned into Florida’s ONLY diaper bank. Jonah Schaechter of Miami, Florida was searching for a community service project for his Bar Mitzvah when he learned of the 1 in 3 families that struggle to provide clean diapers for their children and was determined to enlist the help of his friends, family, school, and temple to start an initiative to collect diapers to distribute to the families who need it most. It was a success! He quickly collected over 1000 diapers!

But when he looked for a place he could drop off the collected diapers, his search left him empty handed. With so many families foregoing other basic needs to be able to change their baby’s dirty diapers, how could there not be help readily available for these families?

Jonah decided he wanted to change that. With the help of his father, Roberto, and his sister, Arielle, their hard work together in this year-round project, they finally registered Miami Diaper Bank as an official 501c3, the first diaper bank in the Miami area.

We wanted to help. We also wanted to give back to the community and families we care so much about.

We sought out to join in the efforts of the national organization No Child Wet Behind, along with over 40 other doula agencies across the United States, to put on a family friendly 5K and 1 Mile Fun Run event as the finale to the coming month’s fundraising and diaper drive efforts. Through this platform, we knew we could really help make a difference in our community if we could find the right local organization that could handle our big goals and make the most difference throughout South Florida.

We met with Roberto, who’s love for babies shown above all else, and Nina, the upbeat woman behind the diaper bank’s promotion and Miami’s enthusiasm for supporting this cause. We wanted to learn more, we wanted to know how it all started, and we wanted to ensure that when we ask for your help, you know it will be benefiting the best.

We are both excited and proud to announce that the Miami Diaper Bank will be No Child Wet Behind South Florida’s official beneficiary!

In the coming months, you will see diaper drop off locations throughout Miami and Broward and fundraising events to help Miami Diaper Bank make the most of our efforts. The finale of these efforts is a 5K and 1 mile Family Fun Run complete with t-shirts, finishing medals for everyone, a vendor expo, raffle, kid’s activities, music, and food. This event will take place May 6th, 2017 at Amelia Earhart Park in Hialeah Florida. We have some lofty goals. We want to donate 15,000 diapers and $10,000 to the Miami Diaper Bank from this event. We know we can reach them with your help!

For all the ways you can help and to register for the race:

Register to Run

Donate

Sponsor/Be a Vendor

Send Diapers

Volunteer

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Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

Cheers to the Only Statistic We Keep

Cheers to the Only Statistic We Keep

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2016. It’s been….surreal, as deemed “Word of the Year” by Merriam Webster and that’s one way to put it.
Even without the tragic deaths that seemed to keep on coming, the presidential election, and two long time sports curses broken, we agree surreal is the right word for this year. Looking back on all who gave us the honor of standing with them through the extraordinary time of pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period, it is you who have made this year surreal for us.
We’ve witnessed the moments people have become mothers and fathers, the tranquility of a mother taking a well deserved nap, and we’ve gotten to feel the confidence of families rise from the birth room to the nursery. We’ve helped them achieve the birth they desire and reach their infant feeding goals.
But don’t expect us to spout off statistics of the percentage of our clients who had an unmedicated birth, those who had a vbac, or those who are still exclusively breastfeeding at 6 months, among other meaningless record keeping. We don’t have them.
These statistics mean nothing to us and they tell you nothing about about the support you have come to expect from us. We don’t claim your method of delivery as our own success or failure.  We don’t place your choices and outcomes on a hierarchy; the percentage who have had an unmedicated birth is not superior to those who didn’t. You are unique. Your experience is unique. You are not a statistic.

We only keep one statistic and its the only one that matters. 100% satisfaction. The only statistic we strive for.

Our work with our clients isn’t defined by their outcomes. Whether everything goes as expected or nothing goes according to plan, our service is defined by us remaining by your side, unwavering support of your decisions, holding your hand helping you feel safe and secure in our care, and your satisfaction with your birth and postpartum doula.
We look forward to all the births, experiences, and support you choose to share with us next year.
Cheers to you and bring it on 2017.

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

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SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

You're in the Right Place.

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hello@mainstaydoulas.com

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Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

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