Best New Dad Class in Miami

Best New Dad Class in Miami

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Where do you find the best new dads in Miami and Broward? At the brewery, of course!
Mainstay Doulas & Co. now offers a brand new dad class for all dads and partners-to- be. But it comes with a twist! Well, actually it comes with a FREE BEER. The new dad class, Beards, Beers, & Babies, is not your typical daddy boot camp class. It’s held at one of Miami’s favorite new and family friendly microbreweries, Lincoln’s Beard Brewery.
Don’t expect your typical dad class when you come upstairs at the brewery! This class is not taught by nurses, it’s not even taught by the Doulas of Mainstay Doulas & Co. It’s taught by dads who have been there. They have supported their partners through pregnancy, held their hand through childbirth, and earned the title “Super Dad” after bringing baby home. They are ready to teach you everything they learned along they way. They know what is helpful and what is definitely not helpful and don’t want you to make the same mistakes they did.
Dad and partner’s to be will learn how to:
 Keep everyone calm at the first signs of labor.
Navigate their partner through those early labor sensations before and once they get to the hospital.
 Everything they need to know about making their partner as comfortable as possible, before and after an epidural.
How to be the best wingman during pushing or in the OR.
Look like Superdad in the eyes of their partner in the hospital and after bringing baby home.
And how to get back in the game when she’s ready *wink, wink*
Join us the 4th Monday of every month at Lincoln’s Beard Brewery for a casual and fun class with the dads as you learn what to do after baby brews.

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Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

When It’s More Than a Fever

When It’s More Than a Fever

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Any parent knows the feeling of helplessness that overcomes you in the middle of the night when your child wakes up crying, they feel warm, and you see a number on the thermometer, like 104.0. You know you’re in for a long night of holding, cuddling, comforting, and trying to bring that fever down.

But if it’s your new baby, you’re already sprinting  into action, putting on pants, and finding a matching pair of shoes to take them to their first ER trip. This was me. I was the mom wearing the sweatpants, the robe, and a very tired but worried face. To complicate things more, I was out of town alone with my 5 month old and 3 year old.

This started out like any other common childhood illness.

ERs give me anxiety. I tend to word vomit every single thing that has happened leading up to whatever the reason is for our ER trip.

“There was fever of 104.0.” I’ll spare you with the condensed version.

Then there’s vitals, needles, fluids, and tests. You sit there holding your breath, all while you know something is wrong and as much as you hate for there to be something wrong, you hope they just find something. You also hope its minor and easily treated.

For us, the first answer was minor and easily treatable; it was a UTI. A round of antibiotics was the plan.

When you finally get out of the ER, after what always feels like an eternity and your bones are practically frozen from the cold, you go home and back to the cyclical motions of cuddles, snuggles, and medicine. The medicine should start to make them feel better, right?

For us, it didn’t. In between what should have been cuddles and snuggles, was fussing, crying, vomiting, and a lot more temperature taking. I can now tell you from experience, nothing sinks your heart more than seeing a number like 105.0 on the thermometer. We repeated the entire last 24 hours: ER, vitals, needles, fluids, and tests. Only to come back with the exact. same. answer.

At that moment, “ok, thank you.” was all that came out in an effort to convince myself that a UTI was all that was wrong with him.

We all have that mommy instinct. It’s that internal alarm that goes off when we feel something is just not right when it comes to our kids. Mine was blaring.

We went back to our cyclical days of crying, holding, fever, medicine. I tired so hard to ignore my mommy instinct and convince myself that it really was just a UTI. As the day went on, new symptoms were thrown into the mix and in an effort to further convince myself this was nothing serious, I came up with an excuse for every single one.

He developed a rash…must a reaction to antibiotics.

He lips got really chapped…we were visiting Chicago and he’s never been in such cold.

His hands and feet looked swollen…no, he was just my super chunky baby.

But as a few days passed his eyes became so bloodshot that he looked like he hadn’t slept in days (we hadn’t). My baby who was big enough to look like he has never skipped a meal, stopped eating.

This wasn’t a UTI. I couldn’t ignore that instinct anymore. I can’t believe I found myself walking through those automatic ER doors again with my baby lost somewhere in the bundle of blankets I was holding.

More vitals….wait, that’s all they were going to do?! I was now the “crazy mom” who keeps bringing her son back to emergency room, where real emergencies are happening for what was eventually diagnosed now as “just a virus”.

 

 I lied above. Nothing sinks your heart more than knowing there was something seriously wrong with your child, to not be able to shake the feeling that if you don’t get an answer, that your child might die, and only be told that this was “just a virus”.  I wanted to believe it was just a virus, but I couldn’t.

I counted down the hours until our flight home and I could go straight from the airport to our pediatrician. When I finally stepped into her examine room, she listened, she looked, and asked, “Have you googled all these symptoms?”

Google? Dr. Google only says I have a brain tumor or I’m dying so of course, this would have been my usual go-to. But between the holding, worrying and temperature taking,I realized that I hadn’t. How un mom-like of me.

“What day of fever is this?

“6.”

“I don’t think he has a UTI. I don’t think this is just a virus. I think your son has something called Kawasaki Disease. He fits all the criteria and it’s only day 6 of fever, meaning he is within the 10 day window, making this highly treatable and I would expect a full recovery. But you need to go to the children’s hospital, like right now.

*Big sigh* Not sure if it was relief, as a wave of terror still flooded over me but I was relieved that we did have an answer. Kawasaki Disease became the official diagnosis at the hospital where we stayed for several days while he received a treatment called IVIG, its high dose immunoglobulin, and steroids.

We were lucky. Continued tests and monitoring showed that because he was treated on time, he did not develop the biggest complication of Kawasaki Disease, coronary aneurysms.

Many kids aren’t that lucky. Kawasaki Disease is the leading cause of acquired heart disease in children because they were misdiagnosed over and over. Kawasaki Disease attacks the heart by causing inflammation in the coronary arteries, which can lead to aneurysms. Had my pediatrician not been on top of it, missed the diagnosis, and we didn’t receive treatment in the 10 day window, he would have had a 30% chance of developing an aneurysm.

If your child exhibits a high fever over 101.0 for more than 5 days and any combination of:

Rash

Cracked lips

Red eyes

Swollen lymph node

Red and swollen hands and feet

Strawberry-like tongue

Please bring  up Kawasaki Disease to your pediatrician. It can often be confused with other illnesses. We were misdiagnosed 3 times by other doctors while we were out of town. You know your child best and with this disease, you just KNOW something isn’t right.

Kawasaki Disease Awareness Day is January 26th. For more information, please visit Kawasaki Disease Foundation

 

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

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Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation support in all of Miami-Dade and Broward.

 

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

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Serving Miami-Dade and Broward County

786-571-MDCO

hello@mainstaydoulas.com

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

Done is Better Than Good

Done is Better Than Good

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Like you probably are, I’m a mom too. I’m also a partner, a daughter, a friend. Then I️ have this “tiny” role as co-owner of Mainstay Doulas and Co. that seems to take up 99% of my day most days. Entrepreneur life, am I️ right?

It is not easy keeping up with but what keeps my sanity are the few words I️ live by:

Done is better than good and done is good enough.

It’s not that we are accepting less or lowering our standards. There are 24 hours in one day in which you have to work, keep your new tiny human alive, possibly take care of other siblings, and then complete all the mundane tasks that fill up every remaining second of our day.

Oh yeah, then there’s making time for your partner.

But wait, you also need to find time for yourself in there. Which I️ bet is usually the last to be done, if it gets done at all.

When we split ourselves at the seams, it’s easy to feel that nothing is done 100%. Like we can’t be a good enough mom, a good enough, partner, and certainly not a good enough friend. If you’re already feeling these emotions, then you’re probably also not being good enough to yourself either.

I️ see you. I’ve been there.

I’m still there. I’ll never not be there. There will always be something to keep up with, always something I️ feel that I’m not doing 100%. I’m sure through the seasons of being mom there will be an ebb and flow. Some seasons will be easier than others but overall, we will always have a huge task at hand.

So how do you push away the ever looming feelings of failure and believe that done is enough, that you are enough?

It’s not easy, but being a Postpartum Doula has taught me a lot about balancing all the different hats we wear. It’s exactly that: a balance. There is a give and a take. You cannot continuously be 100% in one area of your life without letting another area remain on the bottom, lower than all the rest. When we strive to be perfect in one area, another area suffers but when we simply just get it done, we can move on to another role that is required of us.

I️ don’t consider myself a perfectionist. That is a strength of mine, not a weakness. Because at the end of the day it allows me to put aside any anxieties about the state of the house being just not clean enough, the writing of this blog that just not perfect enough, or the fact that sometimes I️ let my kids have too much screen time. Instead, I️ get to just be me. I️ get to be the me that my kids, partner, and friends already love.

I️’m not the perfect mom, the perfect partner, daughter, friend, or even work colleague but I️ am good enough and I️ do get the job done.

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

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SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation support in all of Miami-Dade and Broward.

 

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

You're in the Right Place.

Mainstay Doulas & Co.

Serving Miami-Dade and Broward County

786-571-MDCO

hello@mainstaydoulas.com

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

The Biggest Secret After Bringing Home Baby

The Biggest Secret After Bringing Home Baby

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There is a huge secret out there about the challenges of bringing home baby that is not being said.

***Before we go any further, we should have a disclaimer.  We, too, wish we had the secret to teaching baby how to clean when you clean so when baby sleeps, you can actually sleep.  But that’s not what this blog is about, so if that’s what you’re looking for from this blog, you won’t find it. We will let you know when we figure that one out.***

Our secret is much simpler than that

You won’t find this big secret on other blogs or articles proclaiming they are about to tell you everything that nobody else tells you about bringing home baby.

What those blogs and articles might tell you is that motherhood isolating (did you know that?).

They’re right, it is.

Our secret is about overcoming that.

It is so simple, you may think that it can’t possibly be the answer to an easier and more positive postpartum experience. But it is.

It is that there is a special power to just hanging out in those first weeks. Not by yourself but with someone. Someone like a best friend who knows all about the language your baby uses to tell you what they need and the normal, uncomfortable, and downright weird things that happen to your body in the postpartum period.

You need someone who is going to listen to hear you, not to just listening to respond to you. You want to share your valuable time with someone who isn’t going to judge you or have an opinion on how you birthed your baby, how you feed your baby, the type of diaper you use, where your baby sleeps, or someone that thinks they know the “best way”  to parent your baby because that’s the way they did it. You need someone who doesn’t give you the answers but realizes confidence is built in supporting you through figuring out what works best for you.

If you haven’t been home alone with your brand new baby yet, maybe you aren’t quite understanding what it actually feels like to have a conversation with another human that just gets it. They get your feelings from the most joyful emotions to the darkest moments and everything in between. Then they validate that these feelings or normal and you’re only human for feeling them.

Imagine if you had that best friend.

If you have already been through the ups and downs of your postpartum, how could your experience have been different if you did have this kind of company to share a hot cup of tea with?

Bonus secret: Those types of best friends DO exist. The best friend you wish you had there everyday to celebrate with, to cry with, and to vent to is your Postpartum Doula. She’s there when you need her, how you need her, and without judgment.

So, will you share a cup of tea with us?

 

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

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SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation support in all of Miami-Dade and Broward.

 

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

You're in the Right Place.

Mainstay Doulas & Co.

Serving Miami-Dade and Broward County

786-571-MDCO

hello@mainstaydoulas.com

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

The 5 Stages of Weaning

The 5 Stages of Weaning

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There’s often times an internal struggle when it comes to breastfeeding and weaning, whether its parent-led or baby-led. I found myself thinking “I want my body back” “I want my body back” “I want my body back” but at the same time, neither of us were ready for this to end.  Until, one of us was. To my surprise, the internal struggle didn’t end there.

Denial– It’s been a day since she’s nursed. It’s been two days. Three days. Four. This can’t be it. She depended on me a week ago. I was her source of comfort, calm, and cuddles. She will ask again. And I’ll oblige… I think.  Do I want this to really be over? That seems drastic, way too fast. It can’t be over.

Anger– I encouraged this. I was selfish. I wanted my body back. I wanted to feel that my breasts were my own again. I stopped offering. I denied her sometimes. I just needed sleep. What if I hadn’t been so selfish? What if I just put up with it? She probably feels like I abandoned her. It’s my fault. Ugh.

Bargaining– Was our last nursing session everything I expected? Was this the big culminating event to an emotional roller coaster? Our breastfeeding experience wasn’t perfect. I was always perusing Facebook. I was ready for her to just fall asleep so I could have my own time.  I didn’t know it was the last time. How could I have known? Can I just do this over again? Just one last time? I would have cherished every last second, if I had only known.

Depression – Ugly crying. More ugly crying. Back to denial.

Acceptance– I did it. I achieved my goals. This is bittersweet. Bitter because I needed to grieve these special times that will be no more, as they always have to end at some point. Sweet because I have the best memories that resulted in a strong bond between my daughter and I. I could look forward to finding new ways to bond and our relationship will become even stronger that way.  It surrounded me with a circle of friends that I am thankful to have in my life. That should be celebrated. Together we did it and weaning was certainly the new beginning to an end. 

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

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Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation support in all of Miami-Dade and Broward.

 

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

You're in the Right Place.

Mainstay Doulas & Co.

Serving Miami-Dade and Broward County

786-571-MDCO

hello@mainstaydoulas.com

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

To My Childless Friends

To My Childless Friends

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There’s a lot of truth to the saying

“Having a baby changes everything”

After I gave birth, I expected lots of changes. Changes to my routine, changes with my partner, and many changes to my sleep pattern. The change I didn’t expect, the one I vowed so deeply to avoid, was the change to my friendships.

I often struggle to find glimpses of my former self. I know I am more than a mom. I am a woman. I am a partner. I am still a person who loves to meet you for Saturday brunch. When the new season premiers I am also the person that just wants to binge watch Orange is the New Black or Scandal with you while we eat pizza until we’re stuffed. And I totally miss being the person that gets all dressed up with you for happy hour and talk about the latest chisme (gossip) at work.

As much as I yearn for adult conversation, I can’t seem to not talk about my kids and their funny antics, like that time the 3-year-old decided to put on my underwear…Borat style. And I know that talking about their achievements, like when they started rolling over, took their first bites of banana, and pooped on the potty for the first time, seem trivial to you. Just know that they aren’t trivial to me. When someone takes up so much room in your heart, every new thing they do is a reminder of all the accomplishments they will one day achieve. It’s a reminder that I might actually be doing something right while keeping a whole other human being alive and that is one of my best accomplishments to date. I hope you can just be proud of me as my friend. Of all people, you knew me when the responsibility of a child seemed like a far off and daunting task.

Also, know that there is still a space in my heart for you. If there is one thing becoming a mother has taught me, it is that filling up your heart can never reach the top. You’re still there and I still need you.

My problem is time, as in I have none. Every day is a struggle to complete the endless routine I’ve set for myself. Between working, the many mouths to feed, and sleep routines that take entirely too long (kids act like they’ve never gone to bed before), nothing I do feels like I can give it 100%. Trust me when I say, our friendship is another thing I feel like I can’t give my all right now and I hate that.

I hope, my child-less friends, you understand that the relationships with my partner and my children are like flowers. They need to be watered, nurtured, and cared for every day. They require so much of my attention and emotional energy to continue to bloom and stay alive (not just figuratively). And I need them for just the same.

I know that our friendship is deeply rooted. Our foundation is so strong that it doesn’t require daily nurturing but rather our friendship is one that every time we revisit it, not much has changed. Our tree stands the same as it did. We can pick up where we left off. I also know that sometimes a missed promise of a call back or text back hurts and some small branches may break. But I’m also confident the roots, tightly wound together helping us stand tall, can weather the strongest of storms.

What I ask of you is to be gracious with me. Continue to invite me to places. I want to be that friend again but when I’m falling short, it’s not because I don’t value us, I’m watering my flowers and I need to be there to watch them bloom.

 

Welcome to our blog! This blog is written to be your cozy reading spot for stories, experiences, tips, and tricks for all things from pregnancy, birth, the postpartum period to parenting that every parent can relate to.

Mainstay Moms newsletter means first access, the inside scoop & a FREE Week by Week Pregnancy Planner!

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SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation support in all of Miami-Dade and Broward.

 

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY

You're in the Right Place.

Mainstay Doulas & Co.

Serving Miami-Dade and Broward County

786-571-MDCO

hello@mainstaydoulas.com

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Support | Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class

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