ABC’s of Newborns- I is for Insomnia

ABC’s of Newborns- I is for Insomnia

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There are always going to be nights when your newborn JUST. WON’T. SLEEP.  And if baby doesn’t sleep, that means neither do you.

Infants generally have short sleep cycles consisting of about an hour between light and deep sleep.  However, movement, sounds, changes in lighting, or hunger may easily wake them. In the first few weeks of life, your infant may have trouble deciphering between night and day, leading to reverse cycling.  Reverse cycling is essentially when your baby wants to nurse or bottle feed more often at night than during the daytime, leading to sleep disturbances for both of you.

The solution to this is NOT trying to keep your baby up longer stretches during the day. An overtired baby is even harder to put to sleep.

You see, a newborn’s sleep isn’t regulated by an internal clock like ours is. It is regulated by their nutritional needs. Ensuring that your newborn is getting enough to eat during daytime hours is a key part of getting their days and nights straight. That means ensuring they are not taking 4 hour naps but that you’re waking to feed them. If they go back to sleep after feeding, it’s all good. Just make sure they are eating at least every 2.5 hours during the day. 

If your baby is having trouble falling asleep at night consistently, implememting healthy sleep habits can help eeryone get more sleep. It may be beneficial to set a scheduled bedtime routine such as feed, swaddle, shooshing, swaying in your arms, diaper change, then crib.  A short bedtime routine may help remind your little one that it’s time to calm down and rest their eyes. Well, at least until they wake up for another feeding in a few hours…

If it seems like your baby is reverse cycling or having trouble telling when it is day or night, you may want to keep the lights on during the day (even when baby is napping) and frequently interact with and talk to your baby when he or she is awake during the day.  At night, it is best to make baby’s environment calm, quiet, and dark, signaling their little bodies and brains that it’s time to rest (and to let mom and dad finally rest!)

If you need any more tips on how to “reverse” reverse cycling, contact your postpartum doula or sleep trainer for tips.  Being a parent to a newborn can be tough, but once you’re armed with the knowledge and support from Mainstay Doula & Co.’s ABC’s of Newborns, you’ll be even tougher.  

Sam Steel

BIRTH DOULA, POSTPARTUM DOULA, PLACENTA SPECIALIST + BEACH LOVER

Miami Beach, FL

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5 Myths About Sleep Training You Thought Were True

5 Myths About Sleep Training You Thought Were True

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SLEEP MYTH #1

Sleep training your baby is selfish.

Reality check: Sleep training your baby isn’t just about you. Sleep deprivation is something that affects the entire family. It affects your moods and actions towards your partner or other children and vice versa.

Intuitively coaching your baby to sleep longer stretches is about the health and happiness of the whole family. It’s not something that you are only doing for you. Your baby needs sleep, just like you! You’re guiding them to learn to fall asleep independently and without sleep associations, a lifelong gift of good sleep.

SLEEP MYTH#2

Sleep training means Cry It Out.

Reality check: Sleep training does not equate to cry it out. Nobody wants to see their babies cry, we don’t want to see our clients’ babies cry but even the methods that promote no crying involve some crying. Its important to remember that falling asleep independently is a learned behavior, just like a baby learns breastfeeding or walking. If they aren’t getting it right away or they aren’t used to having to learn this, it’s hard for them. They cry out of frustration, not necessarily need. Sleep training can be baby led and intuitive, and works. A well-rested baby is a happy baby!

SLEEP MYTH #3

Sleep training your baby makes them lose trust in you.

Reality check: Often times, it’s not the parents that sleep train their babies that have attachment issues with their babies. The sleep deprived parents are the ones that are feeling resentment after getting up for the 4th time and it’s only 2am. We know you would do anything for your baby. That’s why it’s so scary when these negative feelings arise in the middle of the night. You love your baby but through the eyes of sleep deprivation, it’s really hard. Getting an adequate amount of sleep at night gives you your time and energy back allowing you to enjoy and bond with your family and new baby.

SLEEP MYTH #4

Sleep deprivation is normal when you become a parent.

Reality check: When did it become the norm for parents to strive for getting the most amount of things done on the least amount of sleep? While some sleep deprivation is normal and expected when you become a parent, it’s up to you where you draw the line between normal and unhealthy and choose to do something about it. Maybe you’re going back to work where lives depend on your full focus or you’re suffering from postpartum depression and lack of sleep is likely exacerbating the problem by a lot. Sleep training your baby is a choice you, your family, and your baby’s care providers need to decide together. Sleep deprivation doesn’t have to be a long term reality.

SLEEP MYTH #5

Cosleeping is the answer to getting more sleep.

Reality check: While this may work for some, cosleeping is definitely not one size fits all. Many parents don’t feel its safe enough with the baby in their bed. For others it results in even less sleep. It is even ok that some parents have decided that having child in bed with them it not a parenting choice they decide is right for them. It’s not always the answer. 

Now that we have reassured you that you can love your baby and sleep train them, when you’re ready to begin sleeping through the night apply for our complimentary sleep assessment and see how the Mainstay Sleep Method can work for your family.

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We are doulas living in Miami with a love for cafecito, pregnancy and newborns. We are the experts and the moms who have been there sharing our best tips and tricks with a side of inspiration. Our goal? Help you kick ass at this parenting gig.

More About Us →

MORE CATEGORIES

5 Must Have Apps for Pregnancy and Parenting 

 

Rock the baby game with our 5 favorite apps for mastering and tracking #allthethings and feel like you have mastered parenting level: expert.

Ready to Create Your Ideal Experience?

Whether you are looking for a birth doula, postpartum doula, overnight care, prenatal classes, placenta encapsulation,  breastfeeding support, or someone to answer your every question about this whole pregnancy and parenting experience we are here to serve you.

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Babies Don't Come with a Manual.

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Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation supportall at your finger tips.

 

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Consulting | Virtual Doula l Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class l Virtual Doula Support

Wipe Away the Fog

Wipe Away the Fog

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Sitting with my grandma one day, many years back, we jokingly realized I had had 14 jobs in the last two years. We sat there, and we counted, one by one, each like a failed experiment. She laughed.

“Where do I belong?”

This was the moment, the realization, that I hadn’t found my place in the world, I hadn’t found somewhere where I felt I fit in, where I felt fulfilled and happy, or inspired to do greater things.

I had an empty spot in my self, inside my person, my cup was empty.

The pregnancy of my daughter introduced me to the work of a doula, the non judgmental person who knows how to float about, sort of hover in and around families and facilitate the incredible journey they have embarked on. From then on, and from my personal experience of becoming a mother, I felt pulled by the profession.

“Was this it?”

Was this the rare tea I searched for, imported from far lands, so rare, with an amazing aroma, that would fill and warm my cup?

I decided to pour myself some, and it warmed me. And the more I dived into the work, the more my cup filled, the more I enjoyed the warmth I had found. I had found my place, I had found what filled my cup. Now that I had filled my cup and knew how to enjoy the warmth that radiated from it, I wanted to fill other families cups, so I help prepare cups of tea and coffee for the families I serve as a doula.

My work has evolved now, I am embarking on a new journey, extending the reach of my arms.
I am helping parents get more sleep, I help by training and coaching their babies on sleep, because the parent’s cups are empty, they have been empty for too long, and I want to help them fill them.

It is as if I am standing next to them in front of a foggy mirror. They haven’t been able to see their reflection, the reflection of who they are and who they could be, in a very long time, and they don’t know how to fix it. But I do, I can see their reflection clearly through the fog and I want to help them wipe it away. Not just help them, but show them they can learn how to wipe the fog.

Their reflection is the family they want to be, well rested, bonding, thriving, and even thought it is there, the fog makes it hard to see.

Their cup is empty.

I stand by their side, help them learn how to wipe away the fog from the mirror, as I pour and fill their cup. They slowly wipe the mirror, they look, and they finally see their reflection, as they enjoy the warmth pouring out of their cups.

Hello!

 

We are doulas living in Miami with a love for cafecito, pregnancy and newborns. We are the experts and the moms who have been there sharing our best tips and tricks with a side of inspiration. Our goal? Help you kick ass at this parenting gig.

More About Us →

MORE CATEGORIES

5 Must Have Apps for Pregnancy and Parenting 

 

Rock the baby game with our 5 favorite apps for mastering and tracking #allthethings and feel like you have mastered parenting level: expert.

Ready to Create Your Ideal Experience?

Whether you are looking for a birth doula, postpartum doula, overnight care, prenatal classes, placenta encapsulation,  breastfeeding support, or someone to answer your every question about this whole pregnancy and parenting experience we are here to serve you.

%

Our Support for All Birth and Parenting Choices

Babies Don't Come with a Manual.

SOUTH FLORIDA'S PREMIER DOULA AGENCY AND THE NATION'S TOP BIRTH & BABY COACHES

Mainstay Doulas & Co. offers birth doulas, postpartum doulas, placenta encapsulation, gentle sleep training, childbirth education, newborn care classes, prenatal breastfeeding classes, and lactation supportall at your finger tips.

 

Specialties

Postpartum Support | Newborn Nanny l Prenatal Consulting | Virtual Doula l Twins | Triplets | Overnight Postpartum Care | Daytime Baby Help | Birth Doula | Postpartum Doula |Baby Nurse l First Time Mom | “Natural” Vaginal Unmedicated Birth | Cesarean Birth | Hospital Birth | Home Birth | Epidural Birth | Induction | Breastfeeding | Bottle Feeding | Babywearing | Scheduled Parenting | Attachment Parenting | Placenta Encapsulation | Sleep Training | Adoption | Infertility | Surrogacy | Childbirth Education l Breastfeeding Class l Daddy Class l Newborn Care Class l Virtual Doula Support

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